The beginning of a new romance is filled with excitement, the feelings of anticipation and the butterflies in your stomach. However, there can be feelings of anxiety and insecurity too. Getting naked for the first time, in front of your new lover, can be a bit stressful, especially if you don’t feel confident in your appearance.
The large amount of easily accessible pornography doesn’t help either, with a lot of people comparing themselves to the actors and actresses they see in the adult entertainment industry. And it’s not just excess weight or lack of muscle tone that is getting people anxious, many are also worrying about the look of their more intimate areas… with growing numbers of both men and women practicing intimate area waxing and bleaching. With anal bleaching in particular growing enormously in popularity.
While this may sound like a new craze to many people, this is something that adult entertainers have been doing for over 15 years. It has only become more of a “regular person” practice in recent years, with mainstream movies and TV shows (such as Brides Maids and the Kardashians) bringing the awareness of this type of thing into regular households.
One of the draw backs with the rapid growth in the popularity of intimate area bleaching, is the potential health risks involved. Some of the products that are used for skin bleaching aren’t very safe and with some people being too embarrassed to get the job done professionally, there is a possibility that they will choose a product which comes with health risks.
It’s very important to be aware of the ingredients of anything that you put on your skin and this is especially true when it comes to whitening intimate areas. It’s most important to avoid anything containing mercury, steroids or hydroquinone. Some people use products containing these unsafe ingredients because they want fast results… however with possible side effects such as scarring and burning, a slower approach with products containing natural ingredients is definitely advisable.
If you have any doubts, it’s also a good idea to seek professional help before you do anything you might later regret. If you don’t like the idea of going to a doctor or a salon for the treatment, at least read about about the types of ingredients you need to avoid.
And as far as the new love interest goes… hopefully they will love you just the way you are.
The first thing you should feel comforted in knowing is that most men LOVE to be flirted with.
Even if they act slightly awkward at first, men don’t always know exactly how to flirt back.
After flirting with a guy a few times, you should be able to tell if he wants to engage in the flirting dance.
If he doesn’t bite the bait, then you’ll need to accept that he’s probably just not that into you, or he has a
Even men who are in a committed relationship will probably engage in harmless flirting though.
BTW, if a man doesn’t return your flirting dance after a few attempts, believe me, you’ve still made his day.
Everyone loves to feel desirable, and your flirting, assuming you’re not taking it to the level of being
“slutty,” is a great gift you can give to any man.
The best and most natural kinds of flirting occurs after that touch barrier is broken. Things come a lot more
naturally, as the man feels very comfortable with flirting back if he knows you’re comfortable touching him.
Great ways to break the touch barrier include:
* Touching his hand or knee during a conversation for emphasis. He won’t know for sure if you are flirting or
not, but it’s a hugely effective way to break that touch barrier and warm things up for future flirting!
* In a noisy environment, put your hand on his shoulder and lean in close to talk into his ear. This is where it
also pays to have some nice perfume and great breath.
* Lead him across the room by taking his hand. This comes more naturally in a drinking environment, such
as at a bar where you can say, “Hey, let’s go over here where it’s easier to hear each other.”
“I’m just going to get a drink; come with me so we can keep chatting.”
Or you could even lead him to the dance floor.
* Hug him when you see him or when he leaves. Obviously that’s more appropriate if he’s a good friend already
or you are among other good friends when meeting.
* Even just gently brushing up against a guy or lightly touching his arm to let him know that you are
interested is great.
If you’re already with him, then you obviously can do some really fun things like stealthily putting your hand on his
butt when in a crowded situation (while making sure no one else notices).
Or catch him off guard and pull him in for a deep kiss when he’s not expecting it, e.g. “Hey, hun, I just need
a little help with something over here.”
Or send seductive text messages that make him realize you have booty on the brain (give him something to look
forward to when he gets home).
Remember with text messages, it’s better to leave a little to the imagination, rather than being too graphic:
“Great shirt you wore to work today. It’ll look great on the floor when you get home!”
As you read this newsletter, bear in mind that while I’m giving lots of tips, you don’t have to use them all.
Just keep it simple.
You don’t have to have a rehearsed version of your flirting mantra or pressure yourself to be flirt-of-the-
year; just relax.
Go over to the man, smile and say hello. That is the simplest thing you can do to begin.
If you don’t at least do that, you may lose your chance of meeting a great guy.
When you approach him, be sure to make eye contact, and if you can work those eyes in your favor, feel free.
Sometimes a better icebreaker than “hello” can be to ask his opinion on something.
For instance, you could tell him that you are trying out a new perfume. Then get him to smell your neck and
ask for his male opinion.
The easiest way to make sure others don’t notice is to flirt a little with everyone. That way it doesn’t look
like it’s “only for that one guy.”
Flirting doesn’t have to always be sexual or with someone you are interested. Sometimes it can just be a matter of
being comfortable joking around and breaking that touch barrier a little with everyone.
You may be surprised that a lot of things you do to flirt won’t get noticed by others, or even if they do, you need to carry with you a “so what?” attitude.
You have one life, and if keeping your inner flirt locked up in a box isn’t the way you want to spend the rest of it, then perhaps it’s time to unleash the new you!
Really though, people notice a lot less than you give them credit, particularly if you are only starting off with subtle flirting and waiting for him to respond before escalating anything.
Oh, and they WILL notice, if you two do start going out together.
Remember, men like a little bit of a tease, and the difference between being seen as a tease and “slutty” is usually more a matter of making sure you keep things to the level that you’ve mutually reached together.
If he hasn’t been dancing the “flirtation dance” with you yet, then keep things moderate, like touching his arm for emphasis, etc.
If he is engaging in flirting with you, then things can naturally escalate, and he’ll feel very masculine that he has drawn out your more flirtatious side.
I’ll finish this article with an interesting quote from psychologist Dr. Monica Moore:
“Women are more likely to attract a man if they send out several flirting signals rather than relying on a single
Let us know if this applies to you or to anyone you know: Your life has become stale overall. Work is repetitive, and your relationhip and sex life has become as routine as your work too
There seems to be an ongoing belief among couples and the entire population in general that a committed relationship and sex are separate areas of consequence. However, the truth is that relationhip and sex are NOT mutually exclusive, and while they’re not the same, they can affect each other in ways in way that no other aspect of life can. Well, except perhaps for money.
If you don’t believe us, just look at the many couples that have enhanced their long-term relationships by spicing up their sex lives, or the “friends with benefits” or “fuck buddies” that ended up being in an intimate relationship.
Your relationship and your sex life will constantly evolve during your marriage, regardless of whether you would like it to or otherwise. In general, however, what you are, who your lover is and how you treat one another is what determines the kind of relationship and sex life you will have..
Obviously, trying to enhance your relationship and sex becomes simpler when you communicate and interact with one another. Improve communication, schedule play dates, and discuss different sexual dreams and positions that you’d like to test. All these can help to add spice to your relationship and sex life. The most crucial factor would be to enjoy each other’s company and not place an excessive amount of focus on whether you’re getting enough sex.
If you are keeping tabs on you how many times you’ve had sex, you’re opening yourself up to the possibility of becoming a sex and relationship addict.
Unlike someone who strongly believes that intimacy and sex intertwined but are NOT everything, the romance and sex addict looks to something exterior— a relationship or a sexual experience– to provide them the emotional stability they do not have.
The addict is constantly in a hurry to arouse romantic relationships and/or sexual encounters. This often leads to continued unhappiness, fear and boredom This individual is constantly living in an enormous amount of constant chaos — frightened of being alone or reject. Yet they pushing their current partner away and are constantly searching for that one relationship that can make them happy.
The truth is, sexual interest diminishes within a marriage or long-term relationship and sex happens less often. It’s an important part of the connection cycle. Sexual interest also changes as we grow older – we are affected by decreasing hormonal levels along with other health problems.
The focus then changes from the frequency of sex to the quality of sex, especially if a couple becomes at ease with one another, and have other ways of connecting besides sex. The good thing about it is that although sexual frequency has a tendency to decline long-term intimate relationships, sexual joy is quite strong among committed couples.